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Feeling sad? mad? frustrated? It’s ok. Sometimes it’s necessary and sometimes it can create the exact life you want. Find out what to do with it when it’s necessary and how to minimize it when it’s not in today’s episode.
I love your podcast. It’s totally life changing! Thanks so much for putting your wisdom out there for us! It’s very generous of you. I really like what you’ve said about primary and secondary emotions, so I went back to listen to all your podcasts on emotions (particularly to hear more examples of processing negative emotions). And I have a question. Would it be correct to say that emotions that cause “dirty pain” are secondary emotions? Specifically I’m thinking about stubbornness and pride. I can’t think of a time when I felt those things and had it actually help me in a positive way. Mostly, the only things that come from feeling stubborn, in my experience, is conflict and lack or growth. So, I don’t want to dwell in those emotions. But I’m having a hard time deciding on what the primary emotion would be (the thing I need to process). Do you have any suggestions of what primary emotions would morph into feeling stubborn and prideful?
Hi Sarah. Thanks for listening and for your question. Sometimes there is no “clean” emotion. It really depends on the situation. Clean pain can be different for different people and in different situations. So take it on a case by case basis and just ask yourself, “Is the way I’m feeling appropriate to me? Is it how I want to feel about this situation? Or is it my ego telling me I should believe thoughts that aren’t necessary?” I can’t think of a time when stubbornness or pride would be useful so I’d agree with you on that one. 🙂