In today’s episode I’m providing you with an introduction to the 4 main concepts I’ll be teaching in greater detail in the Up Level Your Marriage Coaching Class. The class begins Oct 19th and will include lecture from me as well as coaching so you can get help applying them to yourself or learning them to better help others. You can attend the class on your own or with your spouse (who is free with your enrollment). The first tool is just to know that all marriages that reach a point of true emotional intimacy will include some misery. I know this is disappointing news but it’s necessary and it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with your relationship or that you’ve married the wrong person. The second tool we’ll talk about is boundaries. Boundaries are very misunderstood and many issues we want to label as boundary issues are really just us needing to say what we feel and be true to ourselves. The third concept is that of the manual. Each of us has a book of unwritten, unspoken expectations for our spouses and when they follow our manuals we are happy and when we don’t we fixate on wanting to fix or change them. Releasing your manual doesn’t mean not getting your needs met. It only means loving one another and taking your relationship to the next level. Finally it’s not your job to make your spouse happy and vice versa. In fact you decide what you’ll make their behavior mean and that determines your level of happiness. Understanding this concept on a deeper level and applying it to your own relationship can truly lead you to a mature place in your relationship.
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