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When Your Husband Leaves the LDS Church
We all grow up hoping for happily ever after but knowing that life is full of challenges and unexpected turns. When your husband decides he no longer believes in the religion you both have practiced, it can be an all-consuming challenge that can wreck havoc on your marriage, your confidence, and the dynamic in your home. OR, it can be a way to provide your children an amazing opportunity, a chance to truly discover who you are and an opportunity to connect with you spouse in a way that is more authentic and sustainable. I’ve coached many clients through this challenge and today I’m sharing the main tools I use to help people find peace and empowerment when your spouse leaves the church.
I just listened to this episode and it was like a weight being lifted off my shoulders. My husband lost his faith a couple years ago, but was still living an LDS lifestyle. He is now transitioning out of it and it has been really hard for me. I live in a strong LDS community and my family is all active LDS. I need to meet more women who are working through this challenge. Do you know of any resources for someone like me, besides your community (its out of my budget – but I love the podcasts). Thank you!
There’s a group on FB called Believing Mormons with Doubting Spouses, it’s a lifesaving group with situations like ours. I’m there.
This topic is a tender one for me. I recognize that there are still some things that I need to let go of to fully recover from the agony I have been through in the past 5 years. I generally agree with your podcasts and have felt guided to listen to them. However, there is one point that I hope that you might consider.
You discussed that we need to have respect for our husband’s views and faith and to learn to respect their new self. I cannot find a way to agree with you. I have tried re-framing my thoughts and examining where they come from. It has only confirmed to me that his abusive behavior is something I am blessed to not have to deal with on a daily basis. My ex husband’s choices are not respectable. I only have respect for the fact that he has the God-given right to make those choices.
I feel it disengenuine to change myself in order to adapt to his choices. I am my own person and no longer trapped in the cycle of codependence. The only thing that I needed to learn was to stand up to the abuse and respect myself, not him.
Thanks for your comment Jocelyn. The very first thing I work on will all of my clients is self respect, self love and self care. I never want anyone to allow others to mistreat them. Allowing someone to have their own religious views is not the same as allowing abuse. It sounds like you have done some amazing, challenging work on yourself and your life. Keep going in that direction my friend. Thanks for listening.
I just listened to the podcast, as this is exactly what I am going through as of this week. The things you said have brought be comfort and peace and given me hope. Thank you for that!! I know I still have a long ways to go though. Is there a way to sign up for coaching? I know on your podcast you mentioned a 20 minute phone call, however, I am not sure you do those anymore. Thanks!
Hi Melissa – I have a free group coaching call I do now instead of the individual one. You can come get some help and learn about my coaching program there. https://boldnewmom.lpages.co/public-call-invite/
I am a Jody Moore newbie. Just started listening to your podcasts a couple of weeks ago & have loved every one of them. My husband has been going through a faith crisis for a couple of years now. He hasn’t left the church entirely yet, but I feel it is probably coming. I just finished listening to this podcast and cried all the way through it. I can’t tell how much peace and comfort it has given me. I already feel like a weight has been lifted. Thank you so much! I would love to sign up for a coaching session.
Hi MaryAnn – Thanks for listening! Much love to you and your family. Come to jodymoore.com/askjody and you’ll learn all about how to get some coaching from me.