I just listened to a podcast about taking massive action by the fabulous Brooke Castillo. AMAZING! I committed to a blog post every day for the next 30 days. I won’t e-mail you every day because your inbox space is valuable and I don’t want to fill it all up, but you can check back here for quick inspiration each day if you’re so inclined.
I want to talk to you about the thought I don’t know. We say it and think it all the time.
This thought feels so innocent and true. It’s not.
It’s not innocent. And it’s not true.
You DO know what to do.
You might be in the process of learning or figuring something out.
But you KNOW what to do. You really do.
Here are some versions of “I don’t know” I’ve heard recently:
- My daughter doesn’t want to engage with me or the family. She is withdrawn and won’t communicate with me and I don’t know whats wrong.
- My husband lost his job and I don’t know how we’re going to pay the bills.
- I feel like a failure as a mom and I don’t know why.
- My husband doesn’t like to be told what to do but sometimes I need his help so I don’t know how to ask him without him getting mad.
- None of the women at church talk to me even though I try to be nice to them and I get sad and lonely and I don’t know how to feel better.
- I know some information I think I should share to protect someone but I’m not sure if it’s gossip or true so I’m not sure what to do.
These clients want me to tell them what to do. What to say. How to feel better. I don’t tell them what to do. Instead I tell them:
- You know what to do. You know exactly what to do.
- You’re in the process of figuring it out.
- You’ve got this.
- You’re going to know exactly how to solve this.
At first they don’t believe me.
After a while if they allow their minds to consider that perhaps they DO know what to do, that they can figure this out and that the perfect answer lies within them, they tap into their own brilliant minds.
They come up with AMAZING solutions! Things I NEVER would have dreamed of.
I don’t know shuts down your imagination and your mind. I‘m figuring it out opens up your mind and allows it to run wild. Let it run wild in the direction of possibilities and see what happens! This is the stuff that innovation is made of.
Catch yourself when you’re thinking you don’t know and try on a less toxic thought.
If you want to check out the podcast on massive action it’s right HERE.
Love your guts…